Putting the “I” Back in Love
Evanston RoundTable, July 11, 2019
I love you!
Just three little words, eight letters in all. And yet they make up the most powerful and perilous sentence in the English language.
Powerful because it is the ultimate spoken expression of romantic desire, the great aim and glory of serious relationships, the Big Bang of love and passion.
Perilous because it is the most intimate and vulnerable sentiment a person can make, putting the speaker in the thrall and power of the listener. It humbles us to say it, to mute and minimize, if only for a moment, our usually overwhelming ego.
Ego is what love is not. Love is the triumph of the other over our own needs and desires. I love youis like an arrow traveling to its target, capturing and . . .